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ITV News at Ten Friday 7 December 2018

Do we all need to delete old tweets?

I was on ITV News at Ten on Friday, talking about Kevin Hart, The Oscars and social media.

Kevin Hart is an American comedian and actor who was all set to host next year’s Oscars when homophobic comments he’d tweeted in the past were resurfaced. Hart initially tried to hold on to his Academy Awards contract, but public pressure was too much. He was forced to apologise – and stepped down from hosting the Oscars on Friday.

I wasn’t asked to comment so much on the specific case as on the wider issue of historical tweets coming back to haunt us. The reporter wanted to know if we’re now living in a universe where no-one’s allowed to have an opinion on anything and all public figures must be squeaky clean.

Well – of course not. Life would be pretty boring if everyone was a cookie cutter copy of everyone else. And society isn’t well served by one-dimensional social media profiles which simply airbrush out what the people behind them are really thinking. Continue reading

If men were “having it all” they’d be depressed, too!

There are two things I’m a bit sick of in the press this week. The first is the idea that women must pay a price for “having it all”. That’s rubbish. Women don’t pay a price for “having it all”. We pay a price for having to deal with more than our fair share of “it”.

Second, the “money” myth. Of course for many families these days two incomes are necessary to pay the bills/ mortage. But childcare is so expensive, a great number of families will actually benefit – financially – if one partner gives up work.

The truth is, many women continue to work not so much for the money but for a whole host of other reasons: the desire to use a different part of our brains; the desire to keep our skills and knowhow up-to-date; the desire to continue to identify with ourselves in roles as journalists, lawyers, doctors etc; the desire to have many aspects and interests in our lives.

Why is it that women still feel guilty for admitting that actually they might quite like to work over being a “homemaker” day in and day out?

Childcare is wonderful, lovely, rewarding and deeply fulfilling. But it can also be repetitive, boring, frustrating and stressful. There’s a limit to how many bottoms we wish to wipe, meals we wish to cook and arguments we want to have about the amount of toys/ paraphernalia that our beloved little one(s) wants to carry with them every single time we go out. Let alone all that tidying, washing and hoovering!

I’m sure that a lot of women, given the choice, would love to work in a stimulating job PART TIME and get to look after their children the rest.

Why, oh why, is it taking us so long to find a way to make this happen?

I’ve a great deal of sympathy for Allison Pearson, but it wasn’t her desire to have a career and children that was at fault, it was this crazy “system” we’re all expected to cope with.

Photo: Pewari Naan